Before we start discussing about the purity of love, we should know what love really means. According to the Oxford Dictionary love is a strong feeling of affection and/or sexual attraction for someone. In simple words it’s a feeling of togetherness, completeness, and happiness of knowing that that someone is always going to be there for you. Here what we have talked about is ‘true’ love. But is this actually what we see around us? Had today’s relationships been so strong, we wouldn't have to see so many break ups and divorces. I agree there used to be a time when people were in deep, true love and would do just about anything for their sweethearts. They would go to any extent and face even the hardest of situations to be together. But now it’s all a story of the past. In the 21st century where the youth (lovers I mean) are guided by the episodes of ‘Splitsvilla’, ‘Dare 2 Date’, etc, words like ‘selfless’ and ‘true’ prefixed to ‘love’ are only phrases found in the dictionary and fairy tales.
Let’s take a look at a common scenario in today’s world: the typical boyfriend – girlfriend relations that start from your high school years. Until a few years back, all such relations were either termed as friendship or infatuation. But that’s not the case anymore. They believe its love and keep no limits to their relations until one morning when they can’t adjust with or tolerate or get bored of each other and break up. If two people who were in love decide to break up and remain as best friends, then it means that they are either still in love or that they never were in love. Why do you think this happens? Why do people who once were in a relationship, decide to break up? Why do they then remain as good friends? Is that really possible? Why did they fall in love in the first place? There we come to a question, “Why do people fall in love?” But before we answer that, lets first take a look at 21st century love.
Nowadays what we see around isn’t called love people. You might then say it’s called dating. Well, I agree its more of dating. By dating what you mean might be a gal and a guy going out together so that he can check out the gal’s sex appeal and she can figure out the guy’s bank balance. But when I say dating, I man DATEing – where a guy’s calendar shows: May 1 – Asha: 6pm at The Palace, May 4 – Zareen: 8:30pm at The Intercontinental Regency, May 6 – Cathy: 7pm…. and so on, and a gal’s diary is nothing better.
“A Lover’ Diary” is a series of books printed and published every 3 months since 1968. As the name tells us, each of these issues talk about a love story. The entire story – from where they first met till how it all ended tragically or how they lived happily ever after. The first 100 issues had about 200-300 pages each, but the latest issue published in October 2011 had just 10 pages. An entire love story to be written in just 10 pages, you might think it’s a tough job. But after reading the below description of the book, I’m sure you would say it might have been a tough job to fill those 10 pages!! Here’s what each page was printed with: Page 1 and 2 had the publisher’s and author’s details; page 3 was the contents page; page 4 had the prologue (how they first met, or to be precise, how he first saw her with her then boyfriend); page 5 – the proposal (it was so short that in spite of increasing the font size, half the page had to be left blank); pages 6, 7 and 8 described their first date (detail description of what she wore and how sexy she looked and their first kiss and so on. I think the detailing was too good that more than ½ a million copies were sold in the US alone); page 9 spoke about their fist fight the next day and their break up that night. Hey but don’t think the story had a sad ending. Page 10 was the epilogue which says the next morning that gal was happy with her new boyfriend and the guy was busy planning his next date! What a beautiful LOVE story!!
That’s it folks, these days love is just a plain, name sake relationship between a flirt and a fool. There are two versions of this fact:-
The Guy Flirt & Gal Fool:
Let’s take a look at the most common case, where the guy is the flirt and a very innocent gal gets fooled. He might be a good looking guy who makes maximum use of his looks; or might be one of those rich, spoilt kids who would do anything to make a gal fall for him. His dialogues are very emotional and sound realistic that any gal would believe him. The gal feels like she’s his princess, not knowing that she’s not his only one. He just has to flatter her about her beauty, smartness, etc and repeat the same lines to every other gal he meets.
The Gal Flirt & Guy Fool:
This is a very recently observed type of love story. What lead to its discovery? Too many incidents of the above type just made the gals get a bit smarter and they decided to switch the sides of the coin. Usually gals go with a guy so that she gets noticed in a crowd – that is usually in the above case. But here, the guys are innocent souls who fall prey to her charm. She gets to chose things. She’ll loot the guy, who thinks the more money he spends on her, more true would be her love towards him.
Though these are contrasting versions, they have few things in common. They need a boyfriend or a girlfriend to show off in front of others. Money plays more importance than feelings. The flirt’s main weapon is the same in both cases: their talent in lying perfectly in any unexpected situation.
Are you wondering how the whole thing started in the first place? A guy or gal plays the role of a fool in their first relationship. They get ditched by a flirt and from the next relation onwards, they play the flirt and make use of a fool. It’s a cycle that goes on and on. And to think whether the first flirt was a guy or a gal is more like asking which came first: the chicken or the egg?!!
Coming back to our question, “Why do people fall in love?” You might give me a million reasons for that. You might say two people fall in love coz they are really fond of each other, or they spend a lot of time together, or they know each other really well, etc. If you take a closer look at some comman reasons, you'll realize a few things. You love someone coz you love yourself. You dont want to be alone in life. You need someone in life. You need a shoulder to cry. You want someone to listen to you. You need someone to support you. In short, you love someone coz you just cant even think if living without them. If you really feel that way, then that feeling is love. And if you know you are in love then please think a million times before deciding to break up. Coz you need them more than how much they need you. Hope you have a happy love life. And those who are single - go get a life! What is life without love!!
